“What kind of man do you want to attract? Answer me with your clothes.
"What kind of man do you want? Answer me with your clothes"
-A Letter To Girls I Know (on Modesty) (author’s name removed at his request)
Dear Girls,
There are two kinds of men: Godly men, and worldly men. What kind of man do you want? I’m betting most of you said “a Godly man.” Someday, you want to marry a man who loves God with every fiber of his being because he will be an excellent husband and father. He will honor and be true only to you. Most women want a Godly man or at least think they do.
Well, I think I have found a way to tell you exactly what kind of guy you will get. I don’t even have to know you! All I have to do is look at you. The kind of guy you want or will get is advertised by the clothing you wear. I know what men want. Trust me, I am a guy. I know more guys than you do and I know them better. I know what we think, what we talk about, what we want, and what we look for, and it is different for each one of us depending on our relationship with God. I’m sure you already know this, but men were created differently than you. We have different desires and priorities. Our eyes and minds react very differently to some things than yours do. It isn’t disgusting, perverted, or wrong; it is wonderful and good! It is how God made us. It’s how we handle these differences that separate a Godly man from a worldly man.
A worldly man doesn’t control himself, rather, he looks at anything that attracts his attention or gets him excited. A worldly guy has no problem when girls wear clothes that show off skin, like boxers, high or low-cut shirts, low-rise jeans, and “cute” little swim-suits. He’s a fan of tight-fitting shirts and pants that show off your form, he thinks they’re fine! Worldly guy watches a lot of TV and R-rated movies, isn’t really offended by sexual content or nudity and secretly dabbles in pornography. He’s a “Christian” and makes up a significant portion of your church and youth group. He’s a really nice guy and sees you mainly for your body. If you were to marry worldly guy, he’d bring lots of baggage into the relationship, have intimacy problems, entertain thoughts of other women, and possibly cheat on you.
A Godly man is in control of his drives and desires. He constantly seeks God and reads his Bible. He “walks in the Spirit” and isn’t set off by everything he sees. When immodestly-dressed girls, magazine covers, or risqué advertisements come into view, Godly guy quickly “bounces his eyes” away from the image. He’s constantly guarding his thoughts and what he allows into his mind. He hates being around girls that disrespect him and his struggles by wearing inappropriate attire. Godly guy doesn’t watch much TV and is selective about the movies he sees. He views you as a person, knows you and respects you. He has your best interests in mind and guards against inappropriate thoughts of you. If you were to marry Godly guy, he would give you the emotional attention you need, he would ignore other women and remain faithful to you no matter what.
Unfortunately, there are more worldly men than Godly men. And to make matters worse, to the untrained eye, a worldly man can look a lot like a Godly man. So what can you do to only attract a Godly man? An important way of delineating between them lies in how you dress. As mentioned before, the clothes you wear advertise what kind of guy you are looking for. If you dress immodestly, you will attract worldly guys and scare away the Godly ones. It all comes down to the kind of man you want to spend your time around and eventually marry. You cannot afford to be complacent in this area of your life! You will pay the price someday.
This issue isn’t limited strictly to you and your future relationship. The way you dress directly affects other men and women and their relationships. You don’t see the struggles, the pain, the tears and the sin that you cause, but I can promise that you would be shocked if you did! Ask any Christian young man; we’ve all seen it. It’s kept hidden but it is definitely there. By dressing immodestly, you effectually spit on the struggles of our weaker ranks, appearing to care more about toying with us than helping us. You’ll never know how many broken relationships and lifestyles of sin you’ve contributed to simply by the way you dress. You want to marry a Godly man someday, well so do many other women. Don’t just help yourself and your future, help all women and their relationships by showing discretion in your dress.
Of course, I understand the desire to look stylish, attractive, and “cute.” It’s important to fit in and get attention. Trust me, it can be done modestly! I also understand that it is easier for some girls to find stylish and well-fitting clothes than it is for others. This is an area where guys really don’t understand what you are up against. But just remember, for every sacrifice you make to honor God with your image, Godly men are making sacrifices in their lives that are just as hard, if not harder! They will and do respect you so much for choosing to be modest! A real lady is conscientious of the image she presents, and real men want a real lady. And you can forget about any guys missing out on how attractive you are because you don’t wear revealing clothing. You could wear a circus tent and we would still know; it’s a gift we have.
And so the question still remains: What kind of man do you want? Answer me with your clothes.
(Source: annawood.wordpress.com)
When I read this I realized why I felt so different from my friends growing up. I confess I still do.
The Death of Pretty
…”Pretty” inspires men’s nobler instincts to protect and defend. Pretty is cherished. Hotness, on the other hand, is a commodity. Its value is temporary and must be used. It is a consumable.
- Pat Archbold
Read more: http://www.ncregister.com/blog/the-death-of-pretty#ixzz1inprA6a5
Waiting.
Driving in the car today with one of my best friends who's smitten with a beautiful Christian lady. He believes that the Lord is calling him to love and lay his life down for her. It was so profound.Me: I mean, you're called to be her friend right now?
Friend: Yeah.
Me: How do you know this is God asking?
Friend: I have perfect peace about it. Yes. I want nothing more than to pursue her, and to let her know my intentions and feelings and how much she means to me, but this is flesh. All flesh. It's my desires. The Lord has shown me that I must learn to be a faithful friend first, and lay my life down for her in the light of friendship.
Me: Right. You wouldn't want to cut this season short, and ruin things with her.
Friend: Exactly. It could take time... A lot of time for her and I.
Me: And you're okay with that? You're okay with years?
Friend: Absolutely. I keep thinking that this waiting season is for a purpose. And you know what? Even if I have to wait five, or ten years, it will produce a testimony. By God, it will produce a mighty and powerful testimony.
Me: ...Wow.
the sweeter melody: i'm tired of loophole christianity.
It seems like most ‘christians’ these days are constantly trying to live a life consisting of ‘how much sin can i get away with before i go too far.’
…and it’s really sickening me.
Sin is sin. If the Spirit of the Lord truly dwells within you, you should be doing everything you can to be holy. this nonsense of trying to appeal to your fleshly desires while still claiming Jesus is ridiculous, and i pray that this attitude would be purged from our people. Jesus should be more to us than the guy we go to when we’re feeling guilty or depressed; He should be our every minute of every day and He should be ruling our hearts, minds, and spirit.
Jesus Christ didn’t look for loopholes when He died for you, so stop looking for loopholes when you’re living for Him.
Oh, this. I might seem like a constant drip lately, but it just breaks my heart to see Christians not stepping up to the men and women they are called to be. And by called, I mean Christlike. Losing our lives to find it
(Source: farfromourvices)
